{"id":1614,"date":"2017-01-25T17:18:44","date_gmt":"2017-01-25T22:18:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/marissalingen.com\/blog\/?p=1614"},"modified":"2017-01-25T17:18:44","modified_gmt":"2017-01-25T22:18:44","slug":"self-care-and-social-media","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/marissalingen.com\/blog\/?p=1614","title":{"rendered":"Self-care and social media"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Last weekend I was at ConFusion in Detroit, which I told you I would be. And it was lovely and I had a great time, hurrah. I will probably want to talk about some things inspired by the panels I was on or witnessed, but that&#8217;s in a little bit. Right now I wanted to say: I do not have the passwords to my social media accounts on my laptop, and on my phone I only have the password to my Twitter.<\/p>\n<p>This is deliberate, and I wanted to talk about it this week especially. Not being on Facebook for the weekend of the inauguration was definitely what is known in technical terms as <em>a really great thing<\/em>. But even if it hadn&#8217;t been the inauguration specifically, I find that taking breaks from social media periodically is a good idea. It helps me to see what I might be taking for granted otherwise. It gives me mental space. When I&#8217;m traveling, I can&#8217;t default to doing the laundry\/unloading the dishwasher\/checking Slack\/taking out the recycling\/checking Facebook\/etc. I have some separation from all of that. I try to be sparing in my use of Twitter at those times.<\/p>\n<p>This is hard for people in my life to remember. &#8220;Did you see the picture of&#8211;&#8221; No. I didn&#8217;t. Because I&#8217;m not on social media when I&#8217;m traveling. &#8220;I really loved X&#8217;s post about Y, did you&#8211;&#8221; No. Not on social media. It&#8217;s not up to other people to keep track of my computer quirks. But what their comments do is remind me of how submerged in social media I can be on a regular day. How obvious it is that someone will have seen the picture of and read the post about. Because <em>that&#8217;s what we do<\/em>.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s not wrong that that&#8217;s what we do. Social media is not bad. But taking it for granted, never taking a moment to asses its role in our lives&#8211;well, I can&#8217;t think of anything that&#8217;s a good plan for.<\/p>\n<p>Maybe if I had kept reading social media all weekend, the sheer volume of political speech going on at the moment would have crept up on me. I&#8217;m part of that; I have been more overtly political in public social media in the last year than ever before. But suddenly the Twitter feed that used to be book release\/politics\/cute dogs\/science news\/personal yammering is politics\/books maybe\/politics\/politics\/politics\/oh please give me some cute dogs\/politics. Should I curate it differently? Spend less time on it? I don&#8217;t know. But whatever the answer is, I should be aware of the shift in balance. I should arrive an answer that is conscious of where and how political energy\/focus is expended and not confuse it for happy fluffy things or interactions with friends just because it&#8217;s coming through the same channel those used to (and may again).<\/p>\n<p>Occasional breaks help me do that. And for me it helps that they are coincidental: not me sitting down with a schedule and saying, &#8220;This is the right time and the right duration,&#8221; but chance handing me the opportunity to reevaluate. Maybe it&#8217;ll work that way for you. Maybe it won&#8217;t. But I think we have a strong cultural bias at the moment that staying <em>up to the minute<\/em> on news is what smart, engaged people do, and I don&#8217;t think it has to be like that for every single minute. 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